FKCE Class Schedule

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2019 Summer/Fall Foster and Kinship Care Education Classes 

SUMMER OFFICE HOURS

MONDAY - THURSDAY 8:00 A.M. - 5:00 P.M.

SBVC CAMPUS IS CLOSED ON FRIDAYS DURING THE SUMMER

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For general information regarding workshops, please call (909) 384-4457. All of the classes listed in this schedule meet the criteria for San Bernardino County’s training for RFA (Resource Family Approval) pre and post trainings and for Los Angeles County’s “D” rate pre and post training. All training must be selected based on the individual needs of the foster/kinship child. Please discuss any additional training issues with your Children and Family Services (CFS) worker or the Specialized Care Facilitator as needed.

For Specialized Care Rate information for San Bernardino County, contact 
TERRA DUNN at 909-891-3537 

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PLEASE CALL 909-384-4457 TO REGISTER FOR CLASSES!!

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LOCATION: Classes are held in various buildings on the San Bernardino Valley College campus, which is located at 701 S. Mt. Vernon Ave., San Bernardino, CA 92410, as well as locations off campus. Please check for classroom location by calling (909) 384-4457. .
TRAINING CERTIFICATE:  FKCE facilitators issue training certificates for each class. All class sign-in sheets and participant registration forms are entered into the state’s database after all trainings. If individuals would like to receive a copy of their FKCE class transcripts, please contact the SBVC Foster & Kinship Care Education Program office, (909) 384-4457, and allow one week for processing.
PARKING:  Parking permits are required for all SBVC campus lots and campus streets. Avoid reserved, staff, visitor, and red-zoned spaces. Daily permits can be purchased from yellow dispensers in parking lots 1, 5, 7, 8, and 9 only. Daily permits cost $3.00. Free parking is provided across the street at the Pro Swap Meet (632 S. Mt. Vernon Ave.).
NO CHILDCARE: Per SBVC campus policy, children are not allowed in the classroom under any conditions and are not to be left unattended in any campus facility. Childcare will not be provided for any of the FKCE classes.
DISABILITY SERVICES: For disability-related reasonable accommodations, please contact the FKCE Program office at (909) 384-4457 no later than two weeks prior to the date services are needed.
QUESTIONS:
For further information, contact the SBVC Foster & Kinship Care Education Program office:
(909) 384-4457
San Bernardino Valley College - LA 128
701 South Mount Vernon Avenue
San Bernardino, CA 92410

 AUGUST / AGOSTO

MONDAY, AUGUST 19, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
SAYING GOODBYE                                                                                   
Facilitator:  Dan Crain
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
When children return to their biological parents' home, are sent to another foster (or group) home or are emancipated, care givers rightfully experience a sense of loss (as do the children).  They look at how they were successful (or unsuccessful) with these children.  They may feel guilt or conflict if the child was removed due to behavioral issues.  If a child is emancipated, they may feel elated and sad at the same time.  This class explores how care givers can cope with this life change, say goodbye, 'recharge' their parenting batteries and prepare for the next child.

TUESDAY, AUGUST 20, 5:30 P.M. – 8:30 P.M.
THE BEAUTY OF PROBLEMS…HOLDING YOUR CHILD ACCOUNTABLE
Facilitator:  Wanda Cooper
San Bernardino Valley College – Health & Life Sciences Building Room 232
Holding your child accountable is crucial. Children must be taught to accept responsibility for their actions.  Responsibility slides off children like water slides off a duck's back.  Think of children as being coated with Teflon and nothing sticks--that's how they relate to responsibility.  Responsibility is not inborn. Responsibility comes with coaching and training children. Participants will learn how to embrace the problems and help children to become responsible for their actions.

WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 21, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
SELF-INFLICTED VIOLENCE
Facilitator:  Dan Crain
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
SIV, or Self Inflicted Violence, is a very dangerous form of negative self-expression and those who commit S.I.V. are unable to express themselves effectively.  Also known as Self-Injury, Self-Destructive Behavior, Self-Mutilation and Self-Harm, S.I.V. includes 'cutting', nail biting which causes bleeding, body carving, hair twisting, embedding, and self-burning. “Cutting” that goes wrong can be fatal.  Care givers who have children that engage in these kinds of behaviors have every reason to be very concerned.  People are encouraged to attend this class where SIV is discussed and ways of addressing these behaviors are covered.

THURSDAY, AUGUST 22, 9:30 A.M. – 12:30 P.M.
THE STRONG-WILLED CHILD
Facilitator:  Wanda Cooper
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)                   
Participants will recognize the characteristics of a “strong-willed’ child. Participants will explore the difference between a strong-willed child and a child who is temporarily exhibiting defiant behavior. Participants will discover their learning styles that influence the parenting process.

SABADO, 24 DE AGOSTO, 8:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
CONVIRTIENDO LOS SUEÑOS EN GRADOS: “CURSO DE EDUCACIÓN 2: APOYO A TRANSICIONES EXITOSAS DE LA ESCUELA SECUNDARIA A LA UNIVERSIDAD”
Facilitador: Jorge Razo
San Bernardino Valley College – Business Building Room 122
La vida después de la escuela secundaria es una gran transición y muchos jóvenes de acogida no comienzan a prepararse lo suficientemente temprano. Esta sesión ayudará a los cuidadores a entender cómo apoyar a sus jóvenes para hacer una transición sin problemas de la escuela secundaria a la universidad.

SATURDAY, AUGUST 24, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
FAMILY RULES FOR CHILDREN OF TODAY                                                    
Facilitator:  Wandalyn Lane
San Bernardino Valley College – Business Building Room 214
I have set rules in my home and I try to be consistent. I want my child to respect me and the rules of the home. My child always has an excuse for not following the rules. The participants will learn the importance of setting guidelines and rules in the home. To establish guidelines and standards for behavior and let children know the difference between respectful and disrespectful behaviors.

SATURDAY, AUGUST 24, 9:00 a.m. – 1:00 p.m.
BEHAVIOR MANAGEMENT FOR CHILDREN WHO HAVE EXPERIENCED TRAUMA
Facilitator:  Eric Thornton
San Bernardino Valley College – Business Building Room 213
Children who have experienced trauma will at times use mal-adaptive behaviors as a way to get their needs met. This might result in behaviors such as increased aggression and disobeying adults. Join us for our discussion on how to teach our children “Functionally Equivalent Replacement Behaviors” (FERB) to get their needs met in a more appropriate, socially acceptable fashion.

MONDAY, AUGUST 26, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
CHILDREN WHO SELF NEGLECT                                   
Facilitator:  Dan Crain
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
Imagine what it must be like to live in a cardboard box, on the streets.  Or in an apartment without any running water in which to bathe, nor and food to eat.  Or to have parents who are so used to being 'high' on 'crystal meth' that they neglect you severely as a child, scream at you or beat you for no reason, or sexually abuse you.  All of these circumstances help create a child who harbors self-neglect issues.  These issues include an unwillingness to bathe or perform basis tasks like brushing teeth and combing hair.  This class explores the complexity that is self-neglect to help care givers deal with this behavior.

TUESDAY, AUGUST 27, 9:00 A.M. - 12:00 P.M.
DRILL INSTRUCTOR OR MAGICIAN: THE CHOICE IS YOURS
Facilitator:  Vern Bradley
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
This class is not about being harsh or soft, strict or lenient, or disciplined or out of control.  It is about energy, and how much energy any one foster parent has on any given day.  So come to class to learn to invest our energy in our very own personal magic.  It’s a powerful energy that attracts rather than controls. Our magic will allow us to instill self-regulation into the body and soul of each foster child or teen, a precious gift they can take with them when they leave our care.

TUESDAY, AUGUST 27, 5:30 P.M. – 8:30 P.M.
MAMA LOVES ME FROM FAR AWAY
Facilitator:  Wanda Cooper
San Bernardino Valley College – Health & Life Sciences Room 232
This class will discuss the impact and effects on children with one or more parents that are incarcerated.  We will discuss how to help a child to understand that it is not his/her fault.  We will discuss the emotional impact as well as attachment issues that can impact these children.  We will also discuss and identify ways to help children to survive this period in their lives.  Many children who enter into foster care have parents that are incarcerated.  What should we tell a child about this issue? How does this impact a child’s everyday life? Just how much information should we give a child?  Should a child stay connected with a parent that is incarcerated?

WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 28, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
'PHARMING' - ILLEGAL USE OF PRESCRIPTION DRUGS
Facilitator:  Dan Crain
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
'Pharming' is the illicit exchange of prescription drugs that are crushed and snorted to become 'high.'  Many youth experiment with this dangerous fad and also use over the counter cough syrup (called 'dexing'), which, when combined with alcohol, can permanently damage the body and maybe cause death.  Parents who want information about medication abuse are encouraged to attend this class to receive information for their children.  Discussion helps to identify the user and prevent use.

THURSDAY, AUGUST 29, 9:30 A.M. – 12:30 P.M.
WHAT DO YOU DO WITH A PROBLEM?
Facilitator:  Wanda Cooper
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
What do you do with a problem? Especially one that follows you around and doesn’t seem to go away? Do children worry about problems? Do they ignore them? Do they run and hide from them?  In this class we will learn ways to help children deal with problems, develop the courage to face them, and how to look at problems as opportunities rather than devastations.  We will discuss the children’s book “What Do You Do with a Problem” by Kobi Yamada.

FRIDAY, AUGUST 30, 9:00 A.M. - 12:00 P.M.
GIVING STRESS-FREE DIRECTIVES
Facilitator:  Vern Bradley
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
It’s embarrassing for me to admit that sometimes adults or kids cannot remember the directives I give them solely because I’m being an obnoxious, critical, and controlling boss or parent.  I teach this “stuff” so I know better, but it still requires daily practice!  So come to class to learn how to begin practicing a stress-free relationship between yourself and the adults and kids in your charge.  It really is easy and FUN!

SEPTEMBER / SEPTIEMBRE

WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER 4, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
ALCOHOLISM IN THE FAMILY
Facilitator:  Dan Crain
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
Many families experience major trauma with alcoholism.  Foster children may come from families where this common problem promotes physical, verbal and sexual abuse as well as domestic violence.  Care givers themselves may have first-hand experience of the damage this can cause.  This class offers a candid look at this disease which ravages families.  Causes and effects are explored so that participants gain a better grasp of how to deal with this major societal problem.  People are encouraged to attend this class to obtain more knowledge of how to handle this common family crisis.

THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 5, 9:30 A.M. -12:30 P.M.
TURNING DREAMS INTO DEGREES
Facilitator:  Karen Dixon
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
This workshop will discuss the relationships between caregivers and college attendance. RFA families will be trained on preparing foster youth for college starting in middle school.

FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 6, 9:00 A.M. - 12:00 P.M.
WE NEVER QUESTION THE NOTION OF CONSEQUENCES.  WHY?
Facilitator:  Vern Bradley
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
(Parent)  “So I gave him consequences....Isn’t that what you’re supposed to do?”  I have to admit I laughed, and then I asked my client where he had learned such “wisdom.”  It’s amazing to me that we never question or evaluate the effectiveness of our tried and true parenting tools.  Consequences, in particular, often punish us more than the child and end up making everyone’s life miserable.  So come to class to learn some parenting skills not based upon what we’ve been told to do, but based upon what we know is effective for ourselves in addressing the demands of our personal life in addition to raising responsible kids.  What a novel thought! 

MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 9, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
ASSISTING CHILDREN WITH THEIR ANGER
Facilitator:  Dan Crain
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
Foster children harbor anger over how they’ve been treated and don’t know what to do with that anger.  With few social skills and no trust for adults, they still want structure and discipline in their lives.  Foster parents find out quickly how much these children need effective conflict management skills to promote a trusting foster parent/child relationship. This class explores ways to de-escalate conflict and offer a caring based and healthy family environment for children.  Participants learn ways to assist foster children in effectively handling their anger but also how to trust and bond with adults in warm and caring relationships.

TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 10, 5:30 P.M. – 8:30 P.M.
FAMILY DYNAMICS: THE IMPORTANCE OF FAMILY ROLES IN CAREGIVING
Facilitator:  Wanda Cooper
San Bernardino Valley College – Health & Life Sciences Building Room 232           
In many families, members, especially children, develop certain roles that help to cope with underlying problems.  When family dynamics become dysfunctional, these roles seem to become more pronounced.  We will discuss the differences between healthy and dysfunctional family systems.  We will discuss what determines what the roles are and how they are manifested in youth.  We will also discuss how to encourage youth to use their role as a strength.

WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER 11, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
BEDWETTING (OR SOILING) IN CHILDREN
Facilitator:  Dan Crain
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
A common condition among many children, bedwetting can be frustrating to deal with for both parent and child.  How parents react to this condition can frame how the relationship between parent and child proceeds.  And children in the system of care who enter a new resource home with this condition very much need the SUPPORT of resource families. In addition, some children soil their beds, a condition known as encopresis.  This class engages participants in looking at their own childhood perceptions of these conditions and how to best assist foster children who experience them.

THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 12, 9:30 A.M. – 12:30 P.M.
BULLYING…WHY THEY DO IT
Facilitator:  Wanda Cooper
Westside Kinship Center, 224 E. 16th Street, San Bernardino, CA  92404
In many families, members, especially children, develop certain roles that help to cope with underlying problems.  When family dynamics become dysfunctional, these roles seem to become more pronounced.  We will discuss the differences between healthy and dysfunctional family systems.  We will discuss what determines what the roles are and how they are manifested in youth.  We will also discuss how to encourage youth to use their role as a strength.

FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 13, 9:00 A.M. - 12:00 P.M.
QUIETLY WAVING THE WHITE FLAG
Facilitator:  Vern Bradley
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
It may, but it may not, require humility, perhaps just old fashioned common sense, to call a truce without calling a truce, but definitely ending the war and starting over!  We don’t even have to say “I’m sorry!”  Just start fresh!  Just get everyone out of the corners into which we have so skillfully backed ourselves into!  And then get back to the basics, namely, creating powerful healing relationships with the kids entrusted to our care.

SABADO, 14 DE SEPTIEMBRE, 8:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
TRABAJAR CON NIÑAS TRAUMATIZADOS
Facilitador: Jorge Razo
San Bernardino Valley College – Business Building Room 122
Esta clase ayuda a los cuidadores a comprender el tipo de acontecimientos que condujeron al trauma que todos los niños viven con. Los participantes examinaran maneras de ayudar a estos niños enfrentar y expresar sus emociones y sentimientos.

SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 14, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
TRADITIONAL DISCIPLINE ‘OLD SCHOOL’ VS ‘TODAY’S MODERN DISCIPLINE’
Facilitator:  Wandalyn Lane
San Bernardino Valley College – Business Building Room 214
Today discipline is not easy, so much we need to know to discipline children. I have tried many things that I learned from my parents, it is not working. I want my child to have respectful behavior toward others and I don’t want to spank my child when he/she misbehaves. Participant will explore how their parents discipline, how discipline has evolve and discovering the creative ways to discipline in theses modern times. Participant will discover using Modern Self-Discipline recipe to motivate acceptable behavior and eliminate unacceptable behavior.        

TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 17, 9:00 A.M. - 12:00 P.M.
THE SECOND NINE MONTHS
Facilitator:  Vern Bradley
Parent Education Center(1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
When we are born, we are actually already nine months old.  Yes some of us are born prematurely, so we are even younger.  We will focus today on the second nine months, a time when specific brain circuits are preprogrammed to learn to bond, attach, and to love and be loved.  So come to class to learn how to meet the needs of infants and the needs of older kids who did not have their infancy needs met.

WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER 18, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
WHAT HAPPENS WHEN PARENTS HEAR THE 'FIRE TRUCK' WORD?
Facilitator:  Dan Crain
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
Children who are used to hearing swearing and profanity learn to accept it as common everyday language.  Unless they are taught differently, they may use these words which society deems as unacceptable.  Foster children especially are unaware of how much weight adults attach to profanity.  As they get older, though, they may learn to inappropriately use these negative words to “get the goat” of adults.  Because care givers tend to overreact, they invite children to use this language as misbehavior.  This class, using Positive Discipline strategies, teaches the difference between effective and ineffective ways of dealing with swearing.

THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 19, 9:30 A.M. – 12:30 P.M.  
PROMOTING HEALTHY SEXUALITY AND PREGNANCY PREVENTION
Facilitator:  Karen Dixon
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
Foster care youth are at significant risk for pregnancy at higher rates than other teens. Youth identified several factors that put them at risk such as low self-esteem, lack of guidance, and peer pressure, lack of consistent relationships with trusting adults, wanting someone to love, and history of abuse and neglect.  Participants will discuss how they need to think of themselves as key people in the role of keeping youth safe when it comes to promoting healthy sexual development. They will learn developmental information on sexual health and demonstrate effective communication techniques for discussing sex with youth.                                             

FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 20, 9:00 A.M. - 12:00 P.M.
FREEING MYSELF FROM THE NEED FOR RESPECT AND APPRECIATION
Facilitator:  Vern Bradley
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
As long as I am a slave to the expectation that the kids should respect and appreciate me, I am in deep trouble.  So come to class to learn to move beyond our personal needs while, at the same time, learning how to hold our children accountable and responsible in powerful ways.

SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 21, 9:00 A.M. – 1:00 P.M.
GETTING TO KNOW “MY CHILD” WHO WAS RECENTLY PLACED IN OUR/MY HOME: TRAUMA IMPACT
Facilitator:  Eric Thornton
San Bernardino Valley College – Business Building Room 213
Children who have been involved in the Foster Care system have been labeled many things in our society. Join us as we discuss ways to “look below the surface” to see who our children truly are, and how to meet them where they are.

MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 23, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
FOR CAREGIVERS: DO YOU HAVE GPS? (GREAT PARENTING STYLE)
Facilitator:  Dan Crain
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
Children who've experienced severe neglect, physical or sexual abuse, domestic violence, or homelessness can grow into rebellious and vengeful, children.   All parents have different parenting styles such as authoritarian, permissive and authoritative.  How care givers respond to children's behaviors requires an important type of GPS (Great parenting Style).  This parenting approach defines the parent/child bond which is essential to a healthy relationship.  This class discusses how parents invite different feelings from children depending on how they come across with and the importance of having an 'even keel' or democratic approach.

TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 24, 9:00 A.M. - 12:00 P.M.
CONTRIBUTION, RESPONSIBILITY, AND ACCOUNTABILITY
Facilitator:  Vern Bradley
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
In the “old” days, we “earned our keep.”  There was no such thing as receiving just because. Today, we seem to have transformed that “old” notion into a kind of behavior modification that carries a message about personal rights and what I deserve.  In the meantime, we have neglected to teach kids what it means to contribute, to be responsible and to be accountable.  So come to class to learn how to get back on track with these essential learnings:  contribution, responsibility, and accountability.

TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 24, 5:30 P.M. – 8:30 P.M.
FINDING SUNSHINE AFTER THE STORM...HELPING CHILDREN HEAL AFTER SEXUAL ABUSE
Facilitator:  Wanda Cooper
San Bernardino Valley College – Health & Life Sciences Building Room 232
Sexual abuse is always a trauma for children.  Most parents don't know where to begin in helping children recover from sexual abuse. Many children in foster placement have experienced sexual abuse. These children need new thoughts, ideas, and behaviors that can help them to move forward and heal. Participants will discuss the traumatic effects of sexual abuse on a child and ways to help them heal.

WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER 25, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
FOR TEENS:  IS SOCIAL MEDIA ANTI-SOCIAL?
Facilitator:  Dan Crain
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat and other social media sites are now all the 'new thing' for our society.  To have the newest 'smart phone' is the new rage for our kids.  But does this movement for our children really promote true social communication or actually impede it?  There are so many extremely unhealthy sites where children can get into bullying behavior and also explore self-victimization such as the site The Blue Whale Challenge promotes.  This class looks at these social media sites and how they can actually be very unhealthy for children in the system who adhere to this prevalent and very serious societal problem.

THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 26, 9:30 A.M. – 12:30 P.M.
COOL DOWN AND WORK THROUGH ANGER                                     
Facilitator:  Wanda Cooper
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)                   
It is never too early for children to learn to recognize the feeling of anger, express them, and build skills for coping in helpful, appropriate ways. -Cheri J. Meiners, M.Ed.  In this class participants will learn that it’s okay to be angry, but not okay to use anger in the wrong way.  We will discuss skills for self-calming, getting help, talking and listening, and many other aspects of anger management.  We will also discuss the children’s book by Cheri J. Meiners, “Cool Down and Work through Anger.” Participants will also learn ways to help children deal with anger management.

FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 27, 9:00 A.M. - 12:00 P.M.
LEARNING BY OBSERVATION
Facilitator:  Vern Bradley
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
Observation is a powerful learning tool.  It’s basically how we learn just about everything.  So, what will our foster kids and teens learn from observing us?  Will they pick up on just how much we love and hate certain people?  Will they notice us acting out our addictions?  Will they learn what it is to love and be loved?  What will they see and what will they learn?  These are sobering questions.

SABADO, 28 DE SEPTIEMBRE, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
EL TRAUMA
Facilitadora: Elisa Arteaga
San Bernardino Valley College – Business Building Room 123
En esta clase hablaremos de lo que es el trauma y como afecta a los niños en cuidado de crianza temporal.  También hablaremos sobre algunas de las señales que acompañan al trauma y de algunos de los recursos disponibles para ayudar a los niños a superarlo.

OCTOBER / OCTUBRE

TUESDAY, OCTOBER 1, 9:00 A.M. - 12:00 P.M.
PROVIDING EFFECTIVE HEALING FOR A PHYSICALLY ABUSED CHILD?
Facilitator:  Vern Bradley
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
Believe it or not, the first step in healing a physically- abused child is to heal our own physical abuse wounds both as a child and as an adult.  Otherwise, the pain of our abuse may actually trigger a need for distance between our self and the child, and we may end up recreating the original abusive relationship for the child.  And, of course, there is more.  So come to class to learn it all.

MIERCOLES, 2 DE OCTUBRE, 5:30 P.M. – 8:30 P.M.
LA ANSIEDAD Y EL MIEDO EN LOS NIÑOS
Facilitador: Fernando Bolívar
San Bernardino Valley College – Health & Life Science Building Room 137
El mundo de los niños está lleno de miedos y ansiedad.  Esta clase se enfocará en las condiciones más comunes que están relacionadas con la ansiedad: ansiedad social, ansiedad generalizada, conducta obsesiva – compulsión y fobias. Los padres podrán entender más sobre la diagnosis, los síntomas y tratamiento de estas condiciones de ansiedad.

FRIDAY, OCTOBER 4, 9:00 A.M. - 12:00 P.M.
PREVENTING PREGNANCY AND SEXUAL ACTING OUT
Facilitator:  Vern Bradley
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
What are the needs young women and young men are trying to meet by acting out sexually?  What needs are they trying to meet by either impregnating someone or becoming pregnant?  In today’s class, we will identify those needs and learn how to meet them, thus having a tool beyond the standard contraception to prevent unwanted pregnancies.

SABADO, 5 DE OCTUBRE, 8:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
LA IMPORTANCIA DE PROMOVER LA RESILIENCIA EN LOS NIÑOS DE CRIANZA
Facilitador: Jorge Razo
San Bernardino Valley College – Business Building Room 122
Los padres de recursos pueden hacer una diferencia para las experiencias de los jóvenes de cuidado de crianza porque juegan un papel importante apoyando las relaciones de cuidado, asegurándose de que la escuela es una experiencia positiva, y la promoción de la autoestima de los niños y jóvenes en el sistema de cuidado de crianza. Las relaciones positivas, a cualquier edad en la vida útil, pueden ayudar a mejorar la mala imagen. Las personas que se interesan, que escuchan, que cuidan y aman a la gente, hacen que los demás se sientan mejor. Aumentan la autoestima. Centrarse en las fortalezas de los jóvenes en el cuidado es crucial para los resultados futuros. Esto significa enfocarse en ' factores de resiliencia ', o cosas que ayudan a los niños y jóvenes a lidiar con la adversidad.

TUESDAY, OCTOBER 8,   9:00 A.M. - 12:00 P.M.
I LOVE MY FOSTER KIDS, BUT SOMETIMES I DON’T LIKE THEM
Facilitator:  Vern Bradley
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
When I make this distinction between loving and liking, I am telling the whole world something about myself which has nothing to do with the child or the child’s behavior!  And when I make that distinction, I have to ask myself, what is the message the child is receiving?  So come to class to learn to create a powerful relationship that is characterized by love, and where the distinction between love and like is non-existent and unnecessary.

TUESDAY, OCTOBER 8, 5:30 P.M. – 8:30 P.M.
BURNOUT PROTECTION: A SURVIVAL TOOL FOR FOSTER PARENTS
Facilitator:  Wanda Cooper
San Bernardino Valley College – Health & Life Sciences Room 232
This class focuses on how to “ride the waves” and protect yourself from more devastating outcomes of burnout.  We will discuss what burnout is, the cause of burnout, and how to prevent burnout.  Caregivers will assess their own susceptibility to burnout, learn about the actions, attributes that prevent or reverse burnout, and how to begin to make choices that will protect them from burnout.  Are you suffering from burnout?  Do you know what burnout is?  How do you know if you’re burned out?  Is it time for you to stop foster parenting?  Is it time for you to take a break? Participants will learn ways to avoid burnout and how to relax and take better care of themselves

WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 9, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
POSITIVE DISCIPLINE:  FAMILY MEETINGS
Facilitator:  Dan Crain
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
In the first two classes on Positive Discipline from Dr. Jane Nelson, attendees discussed the basic tenets of Positive Discipline and how important routines are for kids.  This class shows that doing chores, meal planning, appropriate dress and curfew are just a few of the topics family members can discuss among themselves at Family Meetings.  In this class of a three-part series, a powerful tool families can introduce to teach communication skills, responsibility, decision making and healthy family interaction is covered. In the Positive Discipline ‘tool kit’, Family Meetings are considered the best strategy in bringing families closer.

MIERCOLES, 9 DE OCTUBRE, 5:30 P.M. – 8:30 P.M.
TECNICAS PARA EL CONTROL PROPIO
Facilitador: Fernando Bolívar
San Bernardino Valley College - Health & Life Science Building Room 137
El enojo es una emoción humana.  Sin embargo, necesita controlarse y expresarla apropiadamente. Esta clase se enfocará en las técnicas para lograr control propio y promover buena comunicación. Los participantes aprenderán formas aceptables de expresar el enojo y eliminar conductas violentas y destructivas.

THURSDAY, OCTOBER 10, 9:30 A.M. – 12:30 P.M.
SELF-INJURIOUS BEHAVIORS
Facilitator:  Wanda Cooper
Westside Kinship Center, 224 E. 16th Street, San Bernardino, CA  92404
Participants will learn why children hurt themselves and what they can do to help. Children often exhibit self-harming behaviors inflicting pain and injury to their bodies.  Many of these actions are deadly.  Participants will gain insight regarding self-injurious behaviors and how to help children in their care.

FRIDAY, OCTOBER 11, 9:00 A.M. - 12:00 P.M.
POISONOUS WORDS VS LIFE-GIVING WORDS
Facilitator:  Vern Bradley
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
In The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz invites us to be impeccable with our word.  So I can offer you poison: “Who do you think you are?”   Or I can offer you life and truth:  “You’re obviously very angry with me.  I can handle it.  Tell me all about it.”  So come to class to learn the power of our words.

SABADO, 12 DE OCTUBRE, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
EL APEGO                                                                                                                               Facilitadora: Elisa Arteaga
San Bernardino Valley College – Business Building Room 123
En esta clase los padres de crianza recibirán una orientación sobre el apego, como se forma, los diferentes tipos de apego, y como afecta a los niños en cuidado de crianza temporal.  También hablaremos sobre algunas de las señales que acompañan al Desorden de Apego Reactivo y  Desorden de Apego Desinhibido.

SATURDAY, OCTOBER 12, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
THE ACTIVE PARENTING: RAISING WORLD CLASS KIDS (RWCK)                        
Facilitator:  Wandalyn Lane
San Bernardino Valley College – Business Building Room 214
To discover the unique qualities of being a World Class Parent to help build the desired qualities in raising World Class Kids. Participants will learn & practice style of parenting, building strong relationships and the method of choice.

MONDAY, OCTOBER 14, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
POSITIVE DISCIPLINE: A NEW PARENTING STRATEGY
Facilitator:  Dan Crain
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
The ineffective ways of rescuing, controlling and engaging in power struggles with children are avoided in the ways of Positive Discipline.  Instead, giving caring messages, holding kids responsible and accountable, providing limited choices and offering routines are encouraged.  Plus, kids learn long term decision making skills.  In this first class in a three part series using Dr. Jane Nelson's Positive Discipline methods, strategies for interacting with kids that encourage strong relationships, cooperation, educational importance, building self-esteem and better understanding between parents and their children are explored by class attendees.

TUESDAY, OCTOBER 15, 9:00 A.M. - 12:00 P.M.
DON’T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY
Facilitator:  Vern Bradley
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
In The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz, challenges us not to take ANYTHING personally, Absolutely NOTHING.  He informs us that when we take something personally, we are choosing to live in the other person’s hell.  Pretty interesting.  So come to class to incorporate this agreement into our lives as adults and as caregivers.

WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 16, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
POSITIVE DISCIPLINE: ESTABLISHING ROUTINES
Facilitator:  Dan Crain
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
In the first class in this three part series from Dr. Jane Nelson's books on Positive Discipline, the basic tenets of Positive Discipline were discussed.  In this second class, routines such as bedtime, homework, weekend, school mornings and weekends are covered.  These routines help kids become more familiar with their new foster home environment while also building a better bond and healthy interactions among parents and children.  They encourage decision making skills and empower children to learn how to best interact and mature in their homes.  Join the other class attendees in discussing the positive ways routines help children.   

MIERCOLES, 16 DE OCTUBRE, 5:30 P.M. – 8:30 P.M.
10 FORMAS/TECNICAS DE RESOLVER LOS CONFLICTOS
Facilitador: Fernando Bolívar
San Bernardino Valley College - Health & Life Science Building Room 137
Esta clase se enfocará en cómo resolver los conflictos y producir una situación de ganancia para la familia. Los padres aprenderán diez formas o técnicas para resolver los conflictos con niños y adolescentes.

SATURDAY, OCTOBER 19, 9:00 A.M. – 1:00 P.M.
IDENTITY AND CULTURE
Facilitator:  Eric Thornton
San Bernardino Valley College – Business Building Room 213
Cultural awareness is important to examine and to understand the role that race, ethnicity and culture plays in shaping attitudes, beliefs and practices. This class is to train caregivers who have children that may have been removed from their homes.

MONDAY, OCTOBER 21, 9:30 A.M. – 12:30 P.M.
INCREDIBLE YEARS SERIES: DEVELOPMENTAL READINESS AND PLAY
Facilitator:  Karen Dixon
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
Children learn through their interactions with their parents and play.  Having developmentally appropriate expectations for the child depends on the child’s age, temperament and developmental age.  Participants will learn to increase positive affect by respecting and understanding children and their developmental abilities by modeling social skills, child-directed play and having fun.

TUESDAY, OCTOBER 22, 5:30 P.M. – 8:30 P.M.
LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX AND HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
Facilitator:  Wanda Cooper
San Bernardino Valley College – Health & Life Sciences Room 232
This class focuses on how to talk to your children about sex, healthy relationships, and teen pregnancies. Participants will learn about what is happening in the world of young children and teens concerning sex. What does your child really know about sex?  Does he/she use the proper terms for their sexual organs? At what age should you begin this discussion?  Why are our children obsessed with sex? Are they?  Why are teen pregnancies on the rise?  Let’s talk about sex and healthy relationship.

WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 23, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
POST TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER IN CHILDREN
Facilitator:  Dan Crain
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
The diagnosis of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) was initially developed for and is most relevant to adults and not to children.   It most often captures symptoms of single and acute traumatic events and not complex and chronic traumatic events such as abuse, neglect, homelessness and domestic violence.  Recent research suggests, however, that this diagnosis can be relevant for children based on the stressor, the child's recollection of the trauma event, avoidance the child may use and indices in the ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences) Study.  Attendees see how PTSD in children is now a definite possibility. 

MIERCOLES, 23 DE OCTUBRE, 5:30 P.M. – 8:30 P.M.
LA VIOLENCIA EN EL HOGAR: CAUSAS, DINAMICA, CONSEQUENCIAS Y LAS LEYES
Facilitador: Fernando Bolívar
San Bernardino Valley College - Health & Life Science Building Room 137
La violencia en el hogar es un serio problema en California y los Estados Unidos. Esta clase se enfocara en las causas, naturaleza, consecuencias y las leyes con relación a la violencia en su hogar. Los padres podrán desarrollar conocimiento con relación a la naturaleza y la dinámica de la violencia en el hogar con el propósito de aconsejar y ayudar a otros.

FRIDAY, OCTOBER 25, 9:00 A.M. - 12:00 P.M.
AVOID DOUBLE JEOPARDY: LEAVE SCHOOL ISSUES AT SCHOOL
Facilitator:  Vern Bradley
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
In our attempt to appear cooperative with and supportive of the school, we often punish kids over and above whatever consequences were provided by the school for unacceptable performance and behavior.  When we do that, we set ourselves up for very long days and very long weekends.  The resultant resentment is thicker than greenhouse gas.

SABADO, 26 DE OCTUBRE, 8:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
MANTENER A LOS NIÑOS SEGUROS
Facilitador: Jorge Razo
San Bernardino Valley College – Business Building Room 122
Diariamente, nuestros niños se enfrentan a amenazas de violencia. Las escuelas ya no son un refugio seguro para los niños, sino que se han convertido en un escenario de violencia y amenaza. Esta sesión ayudará a los participantes a ayudar a los niños  aprender sobre la violencia, la autoprotección y los conceptos fundamentales del empoderamiento.  

SABADO, 26 DE OCTUBRE, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
COMPRENDIENDO LA ORIENTACION SEXUAL LGBTQ                                
Facilitadora: Elisa Arteaga
San Bernardino Valley College – Business Building Room 123
¿Qué significa exactamente LGBTQ?  ¿Cómo los niños tienen alguna idea sobre su orientación sexual: son solo niños, verdad? Los participantes tendrán una oportunidad para explorar temas, preguntas y preocupaciones sobre lo que significa ser gay, lesbiana, bisexual, o transgénero, y como esto afecta a jóvenes en cuidado.  Los participantes también discutirán sobre cómo esto afecta sus modelos como padres adoptivos.

MONDAY, OCTOBER 28, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
TEEN SEXUALITY ISSUES
Facilitator:  Dan Crain
San Bernardino Valley College – Health & Life Sciences Room 137
Statistics demonstrate all too painfully that many children who are treated with disdain by their bio parents are showing signs of lesbian, gay or bisexual sexual orientation.  These bio parents create an environment for these kids that stays with them into foster care.  This class explores that dynamic and works with care givers in their own perception of children with sexuality issues and how to best address and assist these kids in dealing with their own highly personal interactions with others.

MONDAY, OCTOBER 28, 9:30 A.M. – 12:30 P.M.
INCREDIBLE YEARS SERIES: BALANCING POWER AND PLAY
Facilitator:  Karen Dixon
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
Developing parenting skills will promote social competence and reduce behavior problems such as how to play with children, social, emotional, effective praise and use of incentives, effective limit settings and strategies to manage misbehavior.  Participants will learn how to promote responsibility, how to teach children to problem solve, and the importance of establishing predictable routines and rules.

TUESDAY, OCTOBER 29, 9:00 A.M. - 12:00 P.M.
HOW MANY BRAINS DO WE HAVE?
Facilitator:  Vern Bradley
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
We often sarcastically ask kids “Do you have any brains?”  Well, the fact is we all have five brains!  And as adults, we sometimes are not any better than our kids at using all five!  So laugh!  And then come to class and learn some really cool stuff about our five brains and learn how to switch on all five! 

WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 30, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
MONSTROUS BEHAVIOR BY PARENTS CREATES RAGE IN CHILDREN
Facilitator:  Dan Crain
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
Enduring severe physical punishment such as being burned by cigarettes and scalded by boiling water - living in closets and unable to use a toilet - being a sex toy for mom and dad's friends (PLUS mom and dad) - encouraged to use illegal drugs - just a few examples of MONSTROUS behavior by severely disturbed parents and how children in foster care are maltreated.  Think what this must do to these fragile kids.  In this class, the intense feelings these kids experience and how their rage comes out in many forms of mistrust and misbehavior are explored due to the parents who show MONSTROUS misbehavior towards their children.

MIERCOLES, 30 DE OCTUBRE, 5:30 P.M. – 8:30 P.M.
COMO ENTENDER EL TRAUMA EN LOS NIÑOS
Facilitador: Fernando Bolívar
San Bernardino Valley College – Health & Life Science Building Room 137
Esta clase tratara los causas del trauma en los niños y como defiere del estrés normal. Además se enfocara en como el trauma afecta el cerebro y el funcionamiento psicológico y social de los niños. Los padres aprenderán como el trauma causa cambios físicos, ansiedad, depresión y otros síntomas relacionados.

NOVEMBER / NOVIEMBRE

FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 1, 9:00 A.M. - 12:00 P.M.
WHAT IS TRAUMA?
Facilitator:  Vern Bradley
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
Trauma is an over-the-top event that might otherwise scare us to death except that our brain so brilliantly rescues us from the direct impact of the trauma.  The brain also has the built-in mechanisms to stop protecting us when we let the brain know that the trauma is over.  But most of us do not know how to access this function either for ourselves or for the kids we serve.  So come to class to learn how to access those wonderful mechanisms.

MONDAY, NOVEMBER 4, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
DEALING WITH TEMPER TANTRUMS
Facilitator:  Dan Crain
San Bernardino Valley College – Health & Life Sciences Building Room 137
Every parent who has dealt with a screaming (and scheming) child in a supermarket, church, playground, movie theater, family event, shopping mall  or some other public venue, knows there is a loss of patience and embarrassment attached.  And who says tantrums are only for children aged two?  Tweens and teens are also quite capable of ‘throwing’ tantrums - just in a more sophisticated way.  Children in foster care are especially prone to temper tantrums due to their lack of earlier consistent healthy parenting.  In this class, Resource Parents learn and share ways to deal with temper tantrums from any age child.

MONDAY, NOVEMBER 4, 9:30 A.M. – 12:30 P.M.
INCREDIBLE YEARS SERIES: PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER – HEALTHY PARENTING STYLES
Facilitator:  Karen Dixon
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
Parents that have a better understanding of children’s needs have increased ability to nurture more effectively, decrease harsh discipline, have more parent/school involvement and decreased behavior problems with their children.  Parents will learn ways to support their child’s education by emphasizing parenting approaches designed to promote children’s academic skills and building collaborative relationships with teachers.

TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 5, 9:00 A.M. - 12:00 P.M.
FIVE GOING ON....FOURTEEN GOING ON....
Facilitator:  Vern Bradley
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
We often describe a child as “Five going on eighteen or fourteen going on twenty-six.”  We imagine our kids having far more sophistication, intelligence, and wisdom than they are even neurologically capable of.  Much of what we describe as “beyond their age” is simply survival behavior.  We will learn today that our expectation to control our kids’ behavior is perhaps faulty to start with.  What we will also learn is the differences and similarities between chronological age and placement age, an awareness that will make being a good enough parent relatively easy.  

WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 6, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
HOW THE SYSTEM OF CARE OPERATES FOR CHILDREN
Facilitator:  Dan Crain
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
Many agencies and organizations deal with assisting foster care youth and their families. This class helps participants understand the complexities that make up the system. Various agencies such as Children’s Services, Mental Health, Public Health, Probation, District Attorney, Public Defender, school districts and Community Care Licensing all play a role. Resource parents are encouraged to attend this classes since specific communication tools are introduced to use with the myriad of groups in the system.  Class attendees come away with a better feel for “how the system works” rather than not working.

MIERCOLES, 6 DE NOVIEMBRE, 5:30 P.M. – 8:30 P.M.
COMO ENTENDER LA SALUD MENTAL DE LOS NIÑOS
Facilitador – Fernando Bolívar
San Bernardino Valley College - Health & Life Science Building Room 137
Es muy importante entender la salud mental de los niños.  Esta clase se enfocará en los factores de riesgo durante el crecimiento y desarrollo de los niños.  Los padres aprenderán sobre la importancia de la intervención temprana y exitosa en el tratamiento psicológico y mental de los niños.

THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 7, 9:30 A.M. – 12:30 P.M.
TRANSITION PLANNING FOR YOUTH WITH SPECIAL EDUCATION NEEDS AND DISABILITIES
Facilitator:  Karen Dixon
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
Foster youth with unique learning styles or physical challenges have additional traumas and barriers to overcome.  Resource parents must understand that the journey to adulthood for this youth will involve extra effort and energy in assisting the youth transitions from high school to life after high school, developing life skills, identify career opportunities, and move towards self-sufficiency. Participants will be able to identify the youth’s challenges more effectively and opportunities, resources and preparation for future decisions.  Participants will discuss with school and other agencies how to prepare the youth for entering the world of work, further education and community living.

FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 8, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
NEVER TOO SOON, NEVER TOO LATE
Facilitator:  Vern Bradley
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
I can’t seem to get the words “it’s too late, baby,” (Carol King, 1971) out of my head as I think about this class!  When it comes to preparing kids for independent living, it is definitely NEVER TOO SOON because such preparation begins at age three!  And the fact is we do not have the luxury to even think it is too late at any age!   So come to class to learn what that preparation looks like.

SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 9, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
COOPERATION & COMMUNICATION
Facilitator:  Wandalyn Lane
San Bernardino Valley College – Business Building Room 214
In this class discover the Beauty of problems and know how to use the Road to Cooperation and not get into power struggles with child(ren). Participants will practice and explore how to avoid communication blocks and putting active communication to work.

SABADO, 9 DE NOVIEMBRE, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
TENDENCIAS ENTRE LOS JOVENES                                                                            
Facilitadora: Elisa Arteaga
San Bernardino Valley College – Business Building Room 123
Las nuevas tendencias entre los jóvenes pueden tener consecuencias peligrosas, incluso la Perdida de la vida.  Con el l uso de los medios sociales han surgido nuevos peligros han surgido que ponen en riesgo la salud física y emocional de nuestros niños. El ciberbullying, sexting, y otras tendencias pueden tener graves consecuencias entre los niños y jóvenes. 

TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 12, 9:00 A.M. - 12:00 P.M.
HOME FREE
Facilitator:  Vern Bradley
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
“Behavior mod” is not about contracts, bribes, money, or rewards.  It is about learning.  Probably the easiest image of ‘behavior mod’ is ourselves pulling the handle of a slot machine.  We keep doing it whether we win or not!   The slot machine makes no deals with us and promises us nothing!  Behavior mod at its best is often referred to as operant conditioning and requires considerable observational skills on our part.  Combine observational skills with a powerful relationship with the foster kid, and we are home FREE.

TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 12, 5:30 P.M. – 8:30 P.M.
THE STRUGGLES OF PERSONAL HYGIENE...RUBBA DUB DUB ...HOW DO I GET THEM IN
THE TUB?
Facilitator:  Wanda Cooper
San Bernardino Valley College – Health & Life Sciences Room 232
It's frustrating to deal with a child who refuses to take care of herself/himself. Some parents feel strongly that their child's hygiene is a reflection on their parenting.  It's also normal for children to go through phases during which keeping up with hygiene can be very challenging, especially during the beginning puberty.  But what's a parent to do? Participants will learn ways to help children improve their personal hygiene.

MIERCOLES, 13 DE NOVIEMBRE, 5:30 P.M. – 8:30 P.M.
LOS TRES INGREDIENTES BASICOS PARA LOGRAR LA INTIMIDAD EMOCIONAL CON SUS
NIÑOS: RESPETO – BUENA COMUNICACIÓN - EMPATIA
Facilitador – Fernando Bolívar
San Bernardino Valley College - Health & Life Science Building Room 137
La clase se enfocara en la importancia de lograr una intimidad emocional y amistad con los niños. Su poderoso impacto en la conducta y actitudes.  Los padres podrán lograr una profunda comunicación y empatía con sus hijos basado en el respeto y amistad.

THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 14, 9:30 A.M. – 12:30 P.M.
MY MOUTH IS A VOLCANO                                                                                             
Facilitator:  Wanda Cooper
Westside Kinship Center, 224 E. 16th Street, San Bernardino, CA  92404
Teaching children how to manage their thoughts and words without interrupting can be quite challenging. We will discuss how to take an empathetic approach to the habit of interrupting and discuss how to teach children a witty technique to help them manage their rambunctious thoughts and words.  We will read and discuss the children’s book, “My Mouth Is a Volcano” by Carrie Hartmen. Participants will learn more how to help children manage their thoughts and words without interrupting.

FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 15, 9:00 A.M. - 12:00 P.M.
HOW IN THE WORLD DO WE MEET TEENAGER’S NEEDS?
Facilitator:  Vern Bradley
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
We have a difficult time seeing Teens as human let alone having any desire to identify and be responsive to their “wild” needs.  In the process, we often forget about our own teenage years as well as our own teenage behavior as an adult!  Ugh!  That hurts! (Laugh) We spend way too much time focusing on sex, drugs, and other outrageous behaviors.  Come to class to learn about teenager’s needs and how to respond to those needs. Your family life will become so much more rewarding.

SABADO, 16 DE NOVIEMBRE, 8:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
EPLOTACION SEXUAL Y COMERCIAL DE NIÑOS
Facilitador: Jorge Razo
San Bernardino Valley College – Business Building Room 122
En esta clase los padres de crianza recibirán una orientación para identificar la explotación sexual y comercial de niños, los componentes básicos del tráfico de humanos, vocabulario usado en el tráfico de humanos, factores sociales que los influencian así como factores de riesgo. También podrán identificar indicadores físicos y de conducta e identificar recursos y servicios para víctimas de la explotación sexual y comercial de niños.

MONDAY, NOVEMBER 18, 9:30 A.M. – 12:30 P.M.
MEDICALLY FRAGILE
Facilitator:  Karen Dixon
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
Children who are medically fragile have at least one chronic physical condition that results in prolonged dependency on medical care. They will probably require assistance with daily living activities and resource parents must be willing to commit to raising children with complex needs.  This commitment should allow the child the best quality of life as well as take into account the child’s restrictions. Participants will learn to be flexible in their thinking and willing to work and communicate with team members in order to achieve the best outcomes for the child. Participants will identify community resources to meet the child’s unique medical and developmental needs that allows the child to participate in developmentally appropriate activities.

TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 19, 9:00 A.M. - 12:00 P.M.
WHAT’S IT LOOK LIKE AND FEEL LIKE?
Facilitator:  Vern Bradley
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
Today’s class is about our relationship with our kids.  No, we are not a friend nor a buddy!  Many of us try to instill in our kids what we call respect and a healthy fear.  Yet we find those qualities unacceptable when we are on the receiving end, for example, with a boss.  So come to class to explore just what the parent child relationship looks like and feels like, and be a part of the discussion. 

MIERCOLES, 20 DE NOVIEMBRE, 5:30 P.M. – 8:30 P.M.
LA IMPORTANCIA DEL APOYO SOCIAL
Facilitador – Fernando Bolívar
San Bernardino Valley College - Health & Life Science Building Room 137
El apoyo social es la evidencia que alguien “allá” se interesa por nosotros aun en momentos difíciles.  Esta clase se enfocara en los beneficios positivos de la amistad y el apoyo social en momentos difíciles como la enfermedad, divorcio o crisis personales.

THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 21, 9:30 A.M. – 12:30 P.M.
WILMA JEAN THE WORRY MACHINE                           
Facilitator:  Wanda Cooper
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
Anxiety is a subjective sense or worry, apprehension, and/or fear.  It is considered to be the number one health problem in America. Anxiety disorders in children are often misdiagnosed and overlooked.  In this class we will address the problem of anxiety that relates to children.  We will read and discuss the children’s book “Wilma Jean the Worry Machine.” Participants will learn how anxiety impacts children.

FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 22, 9:00 A.M. - 12:00 P.M.
TRYING TO HEAL WHAT I HAVEN’T HEALED IN MYSELF
Facilitator:  Vern Bradley
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
It’s easy to see ourselves as unsuccessful at healing attachment wounds.  Worse, many foster kids survive foster placement literally by disconnecting from their attachment wounds only to have them surface later.  Think about the movie, Antwone Fisher.  Being the imperfect world that it is, all of us have experienced broken attachments somewhere along the way.  These unhealed wounds keep us from creating a healthy and healing relationship with our foster children and teens.  So come to class to learn how to first of all acknowledge our wounds and then to heal them.

SABADO, 23 DE NOVIEMBRE, 8:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
LAZOS AFECTUOSOS Y UNIÓN: NUESTROS NIÑOS NECESITAN, AFECCIÓN, CARIÑO,
AMOR, APOYÓ Y SEGURIDAD
Facilitador: Jorge Razo
San Bernardino Valley College – Business Building Room 122
Los niños son seres que cambian y aprenden con una rapidez que muchos envidiamos. En ellos se encierra un potencial infinito. Para lograr sacar provecho de él se requiere de condiciones adecuadas de crianza. Los niños, a diferencia de los adultos, son seres con capacidades por desarrollar que deben ser vistos como una riqueza espiritual, social y material para cualquier sociedad. En esta clase los padres aprenden técnicas de paternidad para trabajar con niños.

SABADO, 23 DE NOVIEMBRE, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
LA PERDIDA: QUE ES Y COMO AFECTA A LOS NIÑOS EN CUIDADO DE CRIANZA TEMPORAL
Facilitadora: Elisa Arteaga
San Bernardino Valley College – Business Building Room 123
Los niños que entran a nuestro hogar en cuidado de crianza temporal has sufrido pérdidas que marcan sus vidas. En esta clase hablaremos sobre las pérdidas que ellos sufren, como entender el proceso del duelo y ayudarlos a superar esas pérdid
as.

SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 23, 9:00 A.M. – 1:00 P.M.
GRIEF AND LOSS
Facilitator:  Eric Thornton
San Bernardino Valley College – Business Building Room 213
All children in foster care have experienced tremendous loss. Even in the very best of care placements, children will experience loss of their family home surroundings, at least some disruption of daily routines, loss of personal belongings, pets, and family members – parents, siblings and kin.  This class will provide information about helping children of different ages and developmental stages on coping with separation and loss.

MONDAY, NOVEMBER 25, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
CHILDREN WITH FOOD AND EATING ISSUES
Facilitator:  Dan Crain
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
Children who experience severe neglect, domestic violence and other forms of child abuse from 'clueless' families of origin, suffer from severe trauma.  These various traumas contribute significantly to their low self-esteem and perceptions of self.  In order to deal with these traumas from birth families, these children may not eat properly which can lead to developing an eating disorder.  They may see these eating and food issues as 'helping' themselves, when, in fact, they may do themselves irreparable harm.  In this class, attendees discuss various eating disorders such as anorexia, bulimia and binge eating. 

WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 27, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
CHILDREN WHO ARE SCHOOL PHOBIC                        
Facilitator:  Dan Crain
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)       
Academic issues for foster children are problematic.  For starters, their parents may have not seen any value in an education and themselves have dropped out of high school due to early pregnancy, substance abuse or other issues.  These kids may also have missed many school days due to neglect and may have been moved around among other family members. When these children enter foster care, they are way behind in school credits and may be 'school phobic.'  In this class care givers learn how to recognize this problem and formulate a plan with the education system as to how to best work with these kids and teach them the value of an education.

MIERCOLES, 27 DE NOVIEMBRE, 5:30 P.M. – 8:30 P.M.
LA OBESIDAD EN LOS NIÑOS
Facilitador: Fernando Bolívar
San Bernardino Valley College - Health & Life Science Building Room 137
Los profesionales de la salud están alarmados por el aumento de la obesidad en los niños.  En esta clase se discutirá el efecto de la obesidad en la niñez, como prevenir esta condición, y que clases de tratamiento hay disponibles.  Los padres tendrán la oportunidad de repasar las técnicas para prevenir o enfrentar la obesidad.  Técnicas como un buen régimen alimenticio, ejercicio, modificación de conducta y refuerzo positivo.

DECEMBER / DICIEMBRE

MONDAY, DECEMBER 2, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
TRAUMA & RESILIENCE
Facilitator:  Dan Crain
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
Foster children clearly come from families where multiple major traumatic events have unfolded in their lives.  Severe neglect, homelessness, domestic violence, and serious physical, sexual and emotional abuse are all intrinsic to their dysfunctional biological families.  All these traumas leave children with major behavioral and emotional issues.  Fortunately, children experience significant resiliency where they learn coping mechanisms to protect them from these traumas.  In this class care givers learn the factors that assist children in overcoming the major emotional deficits caused by severe trauma.

TUESDAY, DECEMBER 3, 9:00 A.M. - 12:00 P.M.
TAKING STOCK
Facilitator:  Vern Bradley
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
We often look back and wonder what happened to our kids but it’s often too scary or painful to go beyond the wondering.  Yes, we often prefer to skip over taking stock and worse, we secretly and resentfully judge ourselves to be failures as parents.  Not good!  Self-evaluation, especially if we eliminate the judgement and the sentencing, is always good medicine, as well as insightful.    It also paves the way for us to be the best that we can be and to model the process for our kids.

TUESDAY, DECEMBER 3, 5:30 P.M. – 8:30 P.M.
THE CHALLENGES OF CAREGIVERS
Facilitator:  Wanda Cooper
San Bernardino Valley College – Health & Life Sciences Room 232
This class will discuss issues that will focus on behavior challenges, relationship challenges, reunification and educational issues. Being a caregiver is often very challenging.  Being a Resource Parent to children who are in the systems often means additional challenges.  These challenges can be numerous ranging from behavior issues, visitation issues, and educational issues.  How does one cope with these challenges and remain healthy and sane? What’s the key? Participants will learn how to handle, cope with the many challenges of being a caregiver.

WEDNESDAY, DECEMBER 4, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
UNPLUGGING AND UNSCHEDULING    
Facilitator:  Dan Crain
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
In our technologically advanced culture, we are most of the time 'plugged in' to our computers and cell phones.  Our children text more to their friends than they talk with them.  And when we take into account our television watching and gaming, we are rarely without some form of technology in our faces or our heads.  In addition, we seem to feel to always have something 'scheduled' for fear of looking lazy or not in tune with life.  This class looks at the importance of unplugging and un-scheduling so our children can benefit from our interactions with them and we can create a family environment that encourages more positive verbal communication.

MIERCOLES, 4 DE DICIEMBRE, 5:30 P.M. – 8:30 P.M.
ESTRÉS – ANSIEDAD, ENOJO Y MIEDO. ¿SON ESTAS BUENAS O MALAS EMOCIONES?
Facilitador: Fernando Bolívar
San Bernardino Valley College - Health & Life Science Building Room 137
Esta clase se enfocará en el impacto de estas emociones en la actitud y conducta del ser humano.  Ayudará a desarrollar un sentido apropiado en la expresión de estas emociones y producir respuestas asertivas.  Los padres ganaran un mejor entendimiento de como expresar sus emociones apropiadamente al enfrentarse a situaciones difíciles en sus vidas.

THURSDAY, DECEMBER 5, 9:30 A.M. – 12:30 P.M.
ANOTHER FAMILY CHANGE? HELPING CHILDREN TO COPE WITH TERMINATION OF
PARENTAL RIGHTS
Facilitator:  Wanda Cooper
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
Sometimes families have major problems.  This often means they need to change so children will be safe.  A child’s family may change from a birth family to a foster family or an adoptive family.  This change can be hard on children.  In this class we will discuss ways to help children through this difficult change. We will look at ways to use simple words and illustrations to help children move from this traumatic pain to the promise of the future.  We will also discuss the Julie Nelson’s book, “Families Change…A Book for Children Experiencing Termination of Parental Rights.

FRIDAY, DECEMBER 6, 9:00 A.M. - 12:00 P.M.
BUILDING A HEALING RELATIONSHIP WITH CHILDREN AND TEENS WHO HAVE BEEN
SEXUALLY ABUSED
Facilitator:  Vern Bradley
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
We tend to be nervous in talking and working with children who have been sexually abused.  We mistakenly think this matter is for a therapist.  Nothing could be farther from the truth.  We provide care for the child twenty-four seven, and we are the primary healers of all their wounds.

SABADO, 7 DE DICIEMBRE, 8:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
COMPORTAMIENTOS AGRESIVOS Y ENOJADOS
Facilitador: Jorge Razo
San Bernardino Valley College – Business Building Room 122
Como cuidadores, somos responsables de ayudar a nuestros jóvenes a aprender a controlar sus acciones y comportamientos agresivos. En esta clase proporciona a los cuidadores una mejor apreciación y comprensión de los comportamientos de los niños cuando muestran sus emociones.

SABADO, 7 DE DICIEMBRE, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
DESORDEN DE APEGO REACTIVO Y  DESORDEN DE APEGO DESINHIBIDO TALLER DE
AUTOCUIDADO                                                                  
Facilitadora: Elisa Arteaga
San Bernardino Valley College – Business Building Room 123
Uno de los papeles primordiales de los padres de crianza es proveer cuidado a los niños y jóvenes que se encuentran bajo su cuidado, olvidándose de cuidar de ellos mismos. En este taller hablaremos de la importancia del autocuidado para los padres/proveedores de cuidado y sobre algunas técnicas que pueden implementar en su diario vivir para manejar el estrés de la vida diaria.       

MONDAY, DECEMBER 9, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
RESILIENT CHILDREN                              
Facilitator:  Dan Crain
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
Kids who go through daily beatings, maybe broken bones, are treated like they do not matter, and are sexually exploited, often find themselves uncertain about their futures, especially when they are placed in foster care.  And this pattern of uncertainty continues into foster placement.  These children are very much in need of 'resilience building' by resource families.  The SEARCH Institutes 40 Developmental Assets is the key!  By reviewing these assets and practicing them in daily interactions with kids, parents build healthy and resilient children.   This class teaches care givers how to assist children in their care into becoming healthier people.

TUESDAY, DECEMBER 10, 9:00 A.M. - 12:00 P.M.
SEXUAL ORIENTATION: FAD, CHOICE, OR GENETICS?
Facilitator:  Vern Bradley
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
We deserve accurate information about teens who are straight as well as teens who are gay,
lesbian, transgendered and questioning.  And we deserve training to provide teens of whatever sexual orientation our very best which includes our heart.  So come to class to get a chunk of that training. 

TUESDAY, DECEMBER 10, 5:30 P.M. – 8:30 P.M.
AVOIDING THE HOMEWORK BATTLE                                                              
Facilitator:  Wanda Cooper
San Bernardino Valley College – Health & Life Sciences Room 232
Parents feel it’s their job to get their children to do well in school.  When parents feel it’s their
responsibility to get their children to achieve, they now need something from their children—they need them to do their homework and be a success.  Fighting with a child regarding what you want them to do puts a parent in a powerless position because your child doesn’t give you want you want. The battle over homework usually becomes a battle over control. In this class participants will discuss homework battles and how to make this successful for everyone.

WEDNESDAY, DECEMBER 11, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
RESOURCE PARENTS:  DEALING WITH STRESS      
Facilitator:  Dan Crain
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
Caregivers who raise other peoples' children, and have to deal with the unending cycles of misbehavior and acting out, can often feel like their own lives are on a perennial 'spin' cycle.  This constant barrage of ‘hassle’ after 'hassle' can take a toll on care giver health and possibly in their relationships with others.  They can feel overly 'stressed out' emotionally and physiologically.  Add to this the stress of the holidays, and resource parents may find themselves particularly just plain worn out!  Participants look at ways to reduce this feeling of being 'stressed out’ and find ways to strengthen their own coping skills.

THURSDAY, DECEMBER 12, 9:30 A.M. – 12:30 P.M.
ADOLESCENTS AND THE LAW                                                                                      
Facilitator:  Wanda Cooper
Westside Kinship Center, 224 E. 16th Street, San Bernardino, CA  92404
This class will supply information about basic principles of law in clear straight forward language. Participants will learn about due process of law, school rules, the law and truancy, assault and battery, shoplifting, alcohol/controlled substances and forgery. Caregivers will understand their children's rights when dealing with law enforcement and the court.

FRIDAY, DECEMBER 13, 9:00 A.M. - 12:00 P.M.
I USED TO LOOK FORWARD TO BEING A GRANDPARENT
Facilitator:  Vern Bradley
Parent Education Center (1010 Grant Ave., across the street from the college)
So why has that dream of being a grandparent come crashing down to earth?  Many of us have convinced ourselves that we can’t be grandparent because now we are, in fact, their parents.  Well, let’s rethink that and go back to what we looked forward to.  We are their grandparent(s).  So come to class to learn how to hold on to our special role as grandparents.

SABADO, 14 DE DICIEMBRE, 8:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
LA PRÁCTICA CRIANZA DE LOS HIJOS
Facilitador: Jorge Razo
San Bernardino Valley College – Business Building Room 122
Esta clase es una guía paso a paso para formar hogares felices e hijos/hijas responsables. Los padres de crianza aprenderán a tratar a sus hijos de una manera más positiva y con una disciplina más eficaz. Los padres aprenden destrezas que les ayudan a promover comportamientos positivos, reducen comportamientos negativos y enseñan alternativas que sustituyen los problemas conductuales.                                                                              

SATURDAY, DECEMBER 14, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.
THINKING PARENTING APPROACH: CHILDREN AND TRAUMA ISSUES
Facilitator:  Wandalyn Lane
San Bernardino Valley College – Business Building Room 214
My child continues to misbehave no matter what I say or do to stop the misbehavior. I am losing my grip on parenting my child. I find myself going back wanting to spank to stop the misbehavior. I just want my child to listen to me all the time. Participants will learn and practice techniques to help their child(ren) recover from trauma issues. Participants will learn because behavior has been learned through negative experiences it can get unlearned with positive experiences.

 SATURDAY, DECEMBER 14, 9:00 A.M. – 1:00 P.M.
HOLIDAY BLUES
Facilitator:  Eric Thornton
San Bernardino Valley College – Business Building Room 213
Many youth have experienced abuse and broken promises during holiday seasons in the past. The possibility of seeing family members bring a wide variety of feelings including anxiety, joy, anger, and sadness.  Caregivers will discuss how to help their foster child survive the holidays and be patient with their emotions.